Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Bet El Drawing Winners To Receive iPad3

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Bet El Activists To Receive iPad3
WE ENCOURAGED YOU, the cream of the crop of young Jewish leadership in New York, to be a part of promoting Bet El by attending its dinner and getting your friends to come.

THANK YOU for being a part of the struggle for a free and strong Bet El.

WE PROMISED to award two iPad2s
(we consulted the winners in January who opted to wait for the iPad3):

1.       To the Bet El Dinner Host who brings the most friends, and

2.       To draw an iPad2 from the pool of Dinner Hosts who got at least 4 people to attend.

AND THE WINNERS ARE:
Elchanan Romanoff of New York, NY – Congrats on bringing the most friends!


Yosef & Rivky Seewald – Kingsway Jewish Center, Brooklyn. Congrats on the new iPad3!

COMING SOON
Knesset Member Ketzaleh and I are coming to NY/NJ on a speaking tour after Pesach. If you can host a Young Leadership event for us, contact me.


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Thursday, January 19, 2012

What's Beautiful But Not for Gazing At?

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As I was driving to Bet El on a recent sunny/rainy afternoon, a beautiful rainbow burst forth from the clouds and its arc descended beyond a hill landing right where my house is located in Bet El.


A rainbow descending on Bet El

I got out of my car, opened the prayer book in my Iphone and recited the Hebrew blessing for seeing a rainbow. I sped home to claim the pot of gold waiting for me at the end of the rainbow, only to find that a neighbor must have gotten to it first.

But something bothers me. Despite the beauty and splendor of the rainbow, Jewish sources instruct us not to gaze at it. It's a law similar to seeing a gorgeous woman: Jewish law forbids us to gaze at her because of the sexual currents that might be aroused in us, but if one sees a phenomenally attractive woman, he can make a blessing to G-d thanking Him for creating such beauty (consult with a Rabbi for the exact circumstances under which the blessing is made).

But why can't we gaze at a rainbow? It's so beautiful, and doesn't awaken within us any base desires!

I found a few explanations, the best of which was on the OU.org site. Based on a passage in the Zohar (kabbalistic work), Rabbi Asher Meir explains that the light of the sun represents spiritual blessing in the world. The more that a person sinks into pursuit of materialism, he increases the dark clouds which block spirituality from his life.

The ideal Jewish life is one based primarily of spiritual pursuit, but not by any means a negation of the material world. Rather, with just a smattering of the physical - similar to mist in the sky, the light of Hashem will illuminate a person's existence in all of its glory, color and splendor - parallel to the rainbow.

So why not gaze at this beautiful rainbow? Answer: The mist represents the moderate portion of worldly affairs that a righteous person endeavors himself in. If a person focuses on the rainbow, he is, in effect, focusing on the mist, the material and risks losing sight of the divine source of the light.

So by aspiring to reach the Divine - the source of all light, our lives will be filled more and more with a colorful glow. But we must keep our focus on spirituality and not pause for more than a brief gaze at the material.

See Rabbi Asher Meir's full explanation.

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Friday, January 13, 2012

The Brutal 80-20 Shmot Redemption Rule

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When Moshe was ordered by Hashem to bring the Jewish People out of Egypt, he said, "They will not believe me, nor hearken to my voice, for they will say, The Lord has not appeared to you." [Shemot 4:1]. G-d allayed his fears and armed him with signs to show the nation.
Moshe arrived in Egypt and joined by Aharon, "gathered all of the elders of the Children of Israel." [Shemot 4:29]. Aharon stated Moshe's mission, Moshe performed the signs, and here came the test: would the nation accept it or no?

The next verse says it all: "And the people believed." Hashem was right! The plan worked! All of the elders of the people were there, and they bought into the Divine plan as presented by Moshe and Aharon.

Ten plagues later in Shemot 13:18, the Torah tells us, "the Children of Israel went up hamushim from the land of Egypt." Rashi explains that only 20% of the Children of Israel left Egypt because the rest of them died in the plague of darkness.

What happened? The Torah itself testifies in chapter 4 that the whole nation believed in the plan. What went wrong?

What went wrong is that 80% of the nation lost their faith and perished in the plague of darkness. Because they no longer believed, they were buried in Egypt.

What transpired in the meantime that so many changed their loyalties? What turned so many people away from the Divine Plan?

The question is strengthened when we consider what transpired during the time that elapsed. The Jewish People witnessed the greatest miracles and wonders by Hashem in the history of mankind. Anyone who had any doubt from the outset, could only be strengthened in his faith in Hashem's redeeming power after witnessing the ten plagues. What happened?

Know that both Hassidic masters and Torah giants from the misnagdim say that before the coming of Mashiach, there were be great tests of emunah, and only a few will maintain their faith. This is difficult for us to imagine in our time. 80% of Jews in the world won't be a part of the Mashiach?

But, we have proof from the book of the Shemot, that even though the whole nation expressed a desire to go along with Hashem's plan initially, only the few held fast and were redeemed.

Is the 80-20 Jewish redemption rule a must?

Acharit k'reisheet – we can learn about the final redemption from the first redemption from Egypt. In other words, the first redemption is recorded in the Torah for future generations to learn from it, why some retained their faith, and others did not, so that ALL of the Jewish Nation will bezrat hashem cling to their faith, despite the real and tough choices and challenges that will face each and every one of us.

After Moshe's first appearance before Pharaoh, the situation for the Jewish People deteriorated greatly. The workload was increased, and the people were whipped by Pharaoh's taskmasters. Ouch!

They met Moshe and Aharon and said, "G-d will pay you back!" for the troubles you are causing us.

What an about face! Just beforehand, the whole nation believed in Moshe's mission. And now, not only do they not believe, but they said that Moshe is the cause of all the nation's problems!

We see here that it's not an easy path. Expressions of faith are a good start, but each and every one of us must know that no one in this world will reach any level of closeness to Hashem without being ready to pass through some difficult and challenging tests. There's no other way. Only those who are willing to encounter these tests of faith, and stand steadfast in their commitment to Hashem, will merit to be redeemed. The majority of Jews, say the Hassidic masters, will not have the spiritual courage to pass.

When someone is faced with a test in faith, and he strengthens himself in emunah, then Hashem will raise him up. As the Zohar tells us, when a person stands steadfast in his commitment to do hashem's will despite the real pressures upon him to do the opposite, then the letter "samech" in the word nisayon (a test) changes to the letter "sin". The meaning of the word thus changes from "test" to "raise up."

If, on the other hand, the Jew caves in to what appear to be unavoidable pressures and extenuating circumstances, the Jew will fall.

The redemption is not immediate. It's not in minutes, hours, days, or months. It is a prolonged process filled with trials and tribulations. Those that cling with simple faith sometimes against logic, will merit to be redeemed. At each impasse, at each hurdle, a few more will stumble citing cogent reasoning and logic for their not overcoming the obstacle.

It seems paradoxical but what the Torah is telling us is that even though a person will see around him G-d performing revealed miracles for the Jewish People on the level of the ten plagues, if he wants to merit the Land of Israel, he must be prepared to have his "workload increased and be whipped for it." This is each person's test of faith in Hashem. As the gemara tells us in the Tractate of B'rachot, the Land of Israel can only be acquired through trials and suffering.

Take, for example, the Spies sent by Moshe who faced a great dilemma. They perceived that if they lead the Jewish People into Israel, then quickly their positions of prestige would be marginalized. New leaders in the fields of agriculture, commerce, the military and government would take prominence. The spies, who were the greatest Torah scholars of each tribe, would no longer feel that they were having as great an impact. So they opted to remain outside of Israel and were erased from Jewish history.

I remember visiting in Kfar Adumim, sitting in the caravan (mobile home) of a pulpit Rabbi from Westchester County, New York. He told my friend and I that he was a successfull Rabbi of a large, prominent, and wealthy shul, making a large salary, and feeling proud about the impact he was making on so many people. He wanted to come to Israel, and after much investigation and research realized that when he makes aliyah, he will be "diminished" to teaching grade school or high school. He did just that. I mamash felt like I was sitting in the presence of a saint, a person who was rectifying the sin of the spies.

Unfortunately, some of our brothers have fallen into the mindset of the spies. When a potential oleh inquires about life in Israel, parents, teachers, and friends tell him he is crazy for considering aliyah. They list reasons about how hard it will be for him, and why it makes no sense for him to walk away from a solid and promising future in the West. "It is enough to be connected and visit Israel," they say.

There are even many leading world class rabbis who are caught in the net of the klippah of the spies. So says the Vilna Gaon in chapter 5 of Kol HaTur. They discourage many from coming to Israel, and thereby delay the redemption.

Rabbi Tzvi Yehuda Kook would say about these rabbis that they are "tzadikim that have no faith." This is a reference to the Talmud Tractate Sota 48b in which the "smallness of vision of tzadikim (the righteous) caused them to lose faith in G-d." Rabbi Tzvi Yehuda Kook said that those who leave Israel and discourage others from coming think that they are expressing their own free ideas. But, Rav Tzvi Yehuda says that in fact the opposite is true. He said that it is the Land regurgitating them from its midst because they are not spiritually fit.

To understand this point, he compared it to a young man and woman on a date. If the woman decides that this guy is simply not for her but doesn't want to hurt his sensitivities by telling him straight out, she seeks an alternative way to end the relationship. She arrives at the next date without a shower; no deodorant; her hair is a mess; her clothes are wrinkled; and her conversation is disconcerted. At the end of the meeting, the guy says to her, "I think you are a great person, but we are simply not fit."

So, too, the Land will appear tough and difficult to those whom the Land deems unfit. Only after much teshuva, faith, and raising one's vision to a perspective of generations, they will merit to return to settle in Israel.
 
Dear friends, aliyah is the only option for a Jew. It will happen sooner or later and better sooner. I know many people who have changed professions after arriving is Israel, e.g. a lawyer who became a museum guide, etc. Whatever will be Hashem's will, one must rejoice in it. And rejoice in the fact that you are a Jew in the Land with a wife and family and engaging in your new-found profession of being a real servant of the Master of the Universe in his terrestrial home - Israel.

Many developments can occur, and Hashem's outstretched arm can perform wonders. As the Yiddush expression goes, man plans and G-d laughs.

The 80-20 redemption rule is brutal. Don't be left behind. Start thinking of practical steps today. Purchase an apartment in Israel if you can afford it, spend your vacations in Israel, start to master the Hebrew language as though you are returning to your mother tongue, check out job options in the holy land and keep smiling no matter what happens.

Your place is here no matter what type of Jew you are.

Welcome home to Israel!

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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

The Yesha Populace - Let the Facts Speak

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Over the years, many entities in Israel have made systematic attempts at delegitimizing the sector of the Israeli public that lives in Judea, Samaria and Gaza (Yesha). The media, politicians and various spokesmen have done their best to demonstrate that the Jews of Yesha are outcasts, on the fringe, and all in all, a burden on Israeli society.

Picture courtesy of "politifake"
But recently-released facts suggest otherwise. Compared with other sectors of Israel, the citizens of Yesha are outstanding in their contribution to society and take a disproportionate share of the burden in defending the country.

According to statistics from the IDF, the percentage of enlistment into combat units amidst the incoming soldiers from Yesha is 61%, compared to 36% of new soldiers from Greater Tel Aviv and 44.2% of enlistees from throughout Israel.
Students from the IDF Prep Academy in Bet El

Yesha residents have stepped up to the challenge of educating the next generation: 23.4% of the Yesha workforce are teachers, as compared to the national average of 12.6%. Many of these educators work at institutions outside of Yesha.

Religious teachers at a conference in Bar Ilan University

Absorption of new immigrants into academic institutions is particularly high in Yesha. For example, at the University Center in Ariel (in Samaria), 400 Ethiopian students are studying towards their BA and Masters Degrees, as compared to a total of 25 Ethiopian students at the University of Tel Aviv.

Yesha residents do, however, have a weakness: they are terrible at waste production. The average Israeli in Yesha produces only 1.31. kilograms of trash per day, while Tel Avivians average 2.09 kilograms.
The future Tel Aviv skyline?

Women’s place in Israeli society has conquered the headlines in recent days, and in this regard too, the woman of Yesha have a higher than average employment rate standing at 64.2%.

Like Tennesseans (the Volunteer State), Yesha residents excel at chipping in for the sake of society. Ben Gurion University surveyed the various sectors of the Israeli public for the rate of volunteering for organizations. They found that 51% of Yesha residents volunteer, compared with 40% from Jerusalem and 32% from Tel Aviv.

A final point of interest is that in a survey held one year ago, 95% of Yesha residents said they led “happy” or “very happy” lives.
Happy Smiles in Bet El

While Israel's electronic media (radio and television) continue to do all in their power to demonize the residents of Yesha and paint them as terrorists and spies, it behooves a prudent observer to pay a visit to these blossoming Jewish towns to judge for himself the nature of this segment of Israel's populace, without the agenda-driven verbiage of the radio and TV commentators.

This article is based on an editorial which appeared in the Kislev, 5772 issue of Yesha Shelanu, a publication of the Council of Jewish Communities in Judea, Samaria and Gaza.

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Photos: Knesset Speaker Rivlin In Bet El

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In the wake of a court ruling to demolish 5 apartment buildings in Bet El, an unprecedented outpouring of support has emanated from coalition parties, who are committed to finding a solution. Activists say that the ruling won’t lead to actual destruction of the homes because:

1.      The land was purchased from an Arab with a contract over 12 years ago.

2.      The buildings are not located in a remote location but rather within the parameters of the town of Bet El.

3.      They are full-fledged concrete edifices and not makeshift, temporary homes.


On an official State visit to Bet El, Speaker of the Knesset Ruby Rivlin was honored at the Bet El Yeshiva Center to light Hanukkah candles on the last night of Hanukkah.

Below are photos from candle lighting at the yeshiva.

Knesset Speaker Ruby Rivlin lights candles. Rabbi Zalman Melamed looks on.








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Monday, November 28, 2011

Save Yourself from the Singles Swamp

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On a recent trip to Manhattan, I spoke at a synagogue that boasts a majority of singles. One of my talks was on Dating and Marriage, and in the course of the weekend, the subject arose in several private conversations.

Many people feel, and I think that I am becoming one of them, that there is a serious epidemic which has spread amongst single religious guys aged 24 and up. The ailment is known as "fear to commit."

This Jewish single nearly drowned in the swamp
and was resuscitated at last minute by this article

Many girls have dated guys extensively only to have the relationship ended by the guy for what usually seems to be no reason other than he didn't feel they were a match.

In 1983 when I started going out on shidduchim [blind dates pre-arranged by a matchmaker], Rabbi Shlomo Aviner of Bet El published a book called Pirkei Ahava on dating and marriage. In the first few pages, he lays down a principle that changed my attitude towards shidduchim to the point that, coincidentally or not, I married the next girl that I dated. For me it worked. My wife and I have been married for 26 years, and the love and commitment has increased with each passing year (Though, I sometimes wonder if my wife feels the same).

Rabbi Aviner opens his book with a young girl and guy who have met extensively and are grappling with the decision to wed because of the real fear that maybe this isn't "the one." Based on reason alone, there is a green light for marriage because the girl has good character traits, her aspirations in life match his, and they get along fine together.

But the heart refuses to comply because his attraction to her is not steady. Sometimes he feels crazy about her, but most of the time he simply enjoys her company, in the same way that he anticipates he would enjoy the company of many girls. Despite some attraction to her and the joy of each meeting, there is no strong sensation that this is the one. To the contrary, there are many others, and maybe one of them is this guy's beshert [heaven-ordained match].

To Wed or Not to Wed? Credit: Srugim TV Series


Lacking a feeling of certainty, the guy cannot commit. He tells her, "You are a nice girl, and thank you, but we are not a match."

The devastated girl goes to weep on her pillow, and the guy tells the matchmaker, "Next, please."
Rav Aviner explains that a person must approach the shidduch with emunah [faith]! He must have faith that if G-d has made this shidduch materialize, and...
  1. the girl is suitable
  2. the girl has positive traits which are congruent with his aspirations and spiritual level
  3. there is some attraction
then he should believe that this is the girl that G-d has designated for him.

Question: Huh? Does Rav Aviner expect me to automatically say "yes" and walk the plank blindfolded?
Answer: No, rather he is saying not to investigate and probe ad infinitum.
Think about it. The alternative is absurd. The only way to really be certain is to meet every single eligible Jewish girl on the planet before making a decision. Until then, you may be haunted with the doubt that there is another girl who is more suitable.

Question: Still, Rav Aviner sounds a bit trigger happy. Am I supposed to jump into a lifelong marriage relationship with a woman for who there is only "some attraction?"
Answer: Rabbi Aviner elaborates:
"The reason is that the core building of a marriage relationship is done through work [after the wedding]. Therefore, there is no need for a gush of attraction and burning love beforehand. If there is burning love, it may not remain. If there isn't, it can appear through [post-marital] work, because the essence of this world is human endeavor and toil… Therefore, a man need only check [before proposing] that a love relationship can develop, or check that there is no repulsion, and then plough ahead."

It is healthy and natural that there be some attraction to the girl. Therefore, if after meeting several times, there is no anticipation for the next meeting and no attraction, then reason dictates that you should end the shidduch.

But if there is some attraction, don't wait for the burning love of the movies or the special feeling that this is the one. That feeling will come as you build your relationship with your beloved partner.
Let's summarize: Rav Aviner is saying that if your date has good character traits, her family is normal, and your aspirations meet, then you must check that there is no blemish that will hamper a love relationship from developing – that is, no physical or character blemish that will stand in the way. If there is no repulsion, and there is some attraction, keep dating, and then - go for it.

Go for it - Dive in!


Question: Do you love your fiancé?
Answer: I like her. She has a lot of great qualities, and I see nothing that will stand in the way of a true and deep love from developing as we build our marriage together.

Question: In other words, you are going under the chuppah [Jewish marriage canopy] with a girl who you don't love?
Answer: I have faith in Hashem that this girl is meant to be my wife, because I love many things about her, and therefore I love her. I cannot say that I have a burning love for her or state with certainty that this is my heaven-ordained match. But, I have faith in Hashem who brought about this shidduch that if I invest much love, patience, and consideration, then a wonderful, robust love relationship will develop. I have faith that my fiancé is meant for me.

If a guy is seeking a level of love and certainty that by definition can only appear after the wedding, he will spend many years as a frustrated bachelor, and be the cause for rivers of tears from many girls, one of which may have been his beshert.

[See also: Sick and Tired of Dating...]

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Wednesday, November 2, 2011

The Dead End Synagogue

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After a morning swim at the local mikva, I asked a Jew on the street where I could find a 7:30am minyan for prayer services. 

Here's what he said: "7:40 minyan at the Dead End Shul."

I was blown away. That sounded like a place for people like me. But I was puzzled, and my face showed it.

The Yid continued: "Just take 147th street to the dead end. The shul is right there."

Ladies and Gentlemen, click below on the JewTube video for my take on this.


 

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